Martin Koníček


Having opinions is pointless

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"I would like to live in the countryside," she says, "then move," I respond, that the conversation was a list of reasons why it is not possible up to the utter honesty of "I am too lazy to change anything," I probably do not even need to say.

Everyone has an opinion! However, it took me a long time to realize that most people's opinions actually do not work because they never realize them, and lower self-esteem flows into it - logically, would you trust yourself if you secretly cheated on yourself every day?

The biggest change in my life for me, when I finally stopped getting caught by depression every other day and tragic dissatisfaction was not the time when I went to a doctor for a pill against spleen, or visited the nearest pub, but the time when I started to realize.

"I would like to be a digital nomad," I told myself, after watching recruitment videos of laptop lifestyle, how wonderful it must be to live and work abroad by the sea, I took a month-long vacation in Thailand, and very quickly cured myself of this idea.

"I would like to live in a small town and own a house," I bought a house in a small town, moved, and very quickly cured myself of this dream.

"I would like to be a contractor," I learned skills in a course, quit, and started working on myself, and found out it has its advantages and disadvantages, but it suits me quite well.

"I would like to be able to make websites," I learned it over the evenings for three years, and today I make my own website on the latest technologies.

As you can see, not everything worked for me, but simply put, I was not lazy to realize, I was not comfortable, even though I could have been. And one thing I can say for myself, it was a time when my self-confidence began to grow rapidly because I started to trust myself, I stopped secretly "around the corner" tripping myself.

Often it's hard for me to realize that when someone tells me something and recommends it, it's mostly just opinions, it's not something the person tried, but an "opinion," often something like "I wish it worked for me, but it doesn't work for me."

When I started looking for people "equal to myself," who are looking for ways it could work and realize it, I came across the fact that there are fewer of such people, not that the problem is in me, just a statistical probability that you come across someone who does what he says is low, and it's normal.

What is normal in society

What I'm slowly getting used to is the way most people think, it often seems unbelievable to me, like what things are normal. It is perfectly normal for people to constantly do the same thing over and over again, even though it doesn't work, they are convinced that it should work, they convince everyone around them, and when you show them directly that their "opinion" really doesn't work and can't work, they expend a tremendous amount of energy to mask it or to destroy anyone who just points it out.

And the worst thing is, when they expend a tremendous amount of energy masking the truth, in that last minute where the truth is revealed "in full nudity," and it just can't be hidden anymore, suddenly they turn and start "I'm a victim, I couldn't have expected this."

It's something I encounter every day, and I just can't understand it for the life of me. And for me, the worst thing, really the worst thing is that it is perfectly normal.

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